My body is NOT Open Source.

[rikibeth]

Just in case you weren't clear, here is a list of who, exactly, is allowed to touch my breasts:

1. My infant child, who I am feeding. Please note, I have one daughter, and she is TWELVE, so this category is null. Infants not my own will be handed back to Mom when they start groping, 'cause I got nothin' for 'em.

2. A medical professional screening me for cancer or other abnormalities, at an appointment I have made. PVC nurse outfits, while cute, do not give you access.

3. Someone measuring me for clothing. Bras, corsets, bodices, custom dresses, whatever. If it's important to get the fit right, fine.


4. Someone I'm currently involved with romantically/sexually, IF we are already engaged in kissing/cuddling/other behavior commonly called "making out." If we're just going about our everyday business, DON'T RANDOMLY GRAB. I kinda hate it.

If you're not covered by any category above?

DON'T EVEN ASK.

Got it?

Also, if you even THINK about asking the twelve-year-old daughter, be prepared for me to CALL THE COPS.

I absolutely refuse to wear any sort of button or signifier to remind people of this status.

MY DEFAULT IS NO.

Comments

[donnad.livejournal.com]

Tapping one on the shoulder with a legitimate greeting or warning is very different from tapping one on the shoulder and asking if they can touch my breasts. If someone asks to touch me innapropriately even without touching me at all, they will get a lecture on personal space.
If I know them casually, I would probably give them a horrified "No" and the lecture. If I know/have known them intimately, then I might make a flirty comment back. Much depends on who the person is.

If someone touches me inappropriately without asking, or without consent, male or female, then they may just get a kick in the genitalia.

I have a very strong personal space aura and I'm not a cute young thing that would attract the jerks that would do that anyway. So I can't even imagine a situation where someone would approach me and ask to touch me.

Unfortunately that aura sometimes works in the negative for me. I like getting hugs from people I know, often people don't approach me for hugs beacuse I appear unapproachable. So unless I initiate them they don't usually happen.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

All in all, it sounds like you're safe. Is this a problem which has ever happened to you?

[donnad.livejournal.com]

When I was younger, yes. but not anymore. Not a cute young thing anymore.
:(

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

Careful, I heard they go after all the cute, non-young things these days too. Nobody is safe.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Quite stylish, though, especially in pirate gear. (That coat was MADE OF AWESOME.)

[donnad.livejournal.com]

Thank you.