My body is NOT Open Source.

[rikibeth]

Just in case you weren't clear, here is a list of who, exactly, is allowed to touch my breasts:

1. My infant child, who I am feeding. Please note, I have one daughter, and she is TWELVE, so this category is null. Infants not my own will be handed back to Mom when they start groping, 'cause I got nothin' for 'em.

2. A medical professional screening me for cancer or other abnormalities, at an appointment I have made. PVC nurse outfits, while cute, do not give you access.

3. Someone measuring me for clothing. Bras, corsets, bodices, custom dresses, whatever. If it's important to get the fit right, fine.


4. Someone I'm currently involved with romantically/sexually, IF we are already engaged in kissing/cuddling/other behavior commonly called "making out." If we're just going about our everyday business, DON'T RANDOMLY GRAB. I kinda hate it.

If you're not covered by any category above?

DON'T EVEN ASK.

Got it?

Also, if you even THINK about asking the twelve-year-old daughter, be prepared for me to CALL THE COPS.

I absolutely refuse to wear any sort of button or signifier to remind people of this status.

MY DEFAULT IS NO.

Comments

[tikvah.livejournal.com]

OK, that's just WRONG. Sounds like there's a jackass who needs a reflexive knee to the groin!

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

theferrett and friends of his at Penguincon. This had BETTER not come to Arisia.

[gentlyepigrams]

No, he's heidipologied and abjectly flounced from congoing for the next year because he feels so bad about this. If I cared, I'd be waiting for the post where the lurkers who support him on email convince him to unflounce.

[cupcake-goth.livejournal.com]

Oh lord, he flounced? And I didn't think my opinion of him and his actions could get any lower. Guess I was wrong.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

I hope like hell he stays flounced, and for longer than a year, and that this meme GOES THE FUCK AWAY.

I feel like I've been living since age eleven in a world where everyone DEFAULTS to wanting to touch my boobs, and I am PROFOUNDLY GRATEFUL for the social conventions that keep most people from doing so, and even from asking. Those who were slow to grasp this social nicety (and quick to grasp my bra strap) were corrected with a MATH BOOK TO THE SKULL.

I don't want to have to start carrying math books again.

[tikvah.livejournal.com]

Holy fuck, what a bad idea!

[faithhopetricks.livejournal.com]

He flounced, disappeared about 1400 comments while leaving his OP up, flounced more, and undisappeared them! for now.

[faithhopetricks.livejournal.com]

(also omg, T and I STILL do that "I want to peeench" routine. I am the crab.)

[gentlyepigrams]

Well, it was a sadface guilty flounce. Because he really is a feminist DESPITE THE FACT THAT HE THINKS MY TITS ARE PUBLIC DOMAIN.

Srsly.

[atdelphi.livejournal.com]

If I never hear the phrase "It's not sexual, it's sensual" again, it will be too soon.

[cupcake-goth.livejournal.com]

This whole thing is just one of many reasons why I don't really go to cons any more. I don't trust groups of geek guys (or any group of guys, really) to have the sense to not behave like entitled morons. I put up with enough of that nonsense when I worked for WotC and had to help run booths at cons, thanks.

... I just can't get over the notion that he (and others) thought that asking strangers if they could touch their breasts was OK. I mean, there's socially inept, and then there's shouldn't be allowed out without a minder.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

What's worse is that I'm acquainted with at least a couple of the women who participated in the experiment.

The kindest thing I can say is to note a previously-observed tendency to starry-eyed idealism. But at least one of them should REALLY know better.

[gentlyepigrams]

I worked in a comics/gaming shop for a while when I was in grad school about 1990. I feel your pain, sister.

Entitled morons is right. Except maybe too harsh on the people we no longer call morons.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Maybe too harsh, except... L's brother.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Yeah. Know what? Even though I recognize the distinction, if you feel you need to make it to convince me to do something, YOU ARE NOT IN THE GROUP OF PEOPLE WITH WHOM I WOULD DO SUCH A THING.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

we do too, but nobody has dibs on the crab.

Remind me to send you a song about a crab that PEENCHES.

[happybluebunny.livejournal.com]

I saw that ferret entry and I will say the same thing to you that I did to the person I first saw posting/reacting to it:
Gross.

*sigh*

[panzerschrek.livejournal.com]

And me without a tire-iron and something approaching useful proximity.

Re: *sigh*

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

hey, if you find yourself at a con with theferrett, give him one across the cranium for me.

[geekosaur]

This is the second time I'm seeing this notion. WTF?! If he really thinks he should be able to grab random tits, I hope someone reciprocates with a ball grab. Eeeuuuuuuuuurrrrrrggggghhh.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

Awwww, there goes my hopes and dreams. *goes emo*

Seriously though, give anybody who tries it a rough kick in the ass.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Well, see, if you wanted access, you would just have to put in the effort to get into category #4.

Or offer to make me custom clothing, I guess!

Anyone demonstrating that level of cluelessness will get corrected with my PLATFORM PENNANGALANS.

Re: *sigh*

[panzerschrek.livejournal.com]

Given his post, it would be useless.

First, given his lack of clue, I might not be inclined to stop.

Second,it wouldn't do any good... although maybe stuffing him in a pair of shock shorts and zapping him whenever he steps out of line might help, if only on a conditioning / negative reinforcement basis.

[wasabi-poptart.livejournal.com]

I agree with you whole-heartedly. I'm not familiar with the situation that prompted this post, but the whole hyper-sexualized flirty/entitlement vibe given off at cons, ren faires, etc. makes me want to vomit.

In other words...

[panzerschrek.livejournal.com]

... he slunk off and has decided to retire to wherever this sort of shmuck slinks off to, so as to avoid the richly deserved fall-out.