My body is NOT Open Source.

[rikibeth]

Just in case you weren't clear, here is a list of who, exactly, is allowed to touch my breasts:

1. My infant child, who I am feeding. Please note, I have one daughter, and she is TWELVE, so this category is null. Infants not my own will be handed back to Mom when they start groping, 'cause I got nothin' for 'em.

2. A medical professional screening me for cancer or other abnormalities, at an appointment I have made. PVC nurse outfits, while cute, do not give you access.

3. Someone measuring me for clothing. Bras, corsets, bodices, custom dresses, whatever. If it's important to get the fit right, fine.


4. Someone I'm currently involved with romantically/sexually, IF we are already engaged in kissing/cuddling/other behavior commonly called "making out." If we're just going about our everyday business, DON'T RANDOMLY GRAB. I kinda hate it.

If you're not covered by any category above?

DON'T EVEN ASK.

Got it?

Also, if you even THINK about asking the twelve-year-old daughter, be prepared for me to CALL THE COPS.

I absolutely refuse to wear any sort of button or signifier to remind people of this status.

MY DEFAULT IS NO.

Comments

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

Awwww, there goes my hopes and dreams. *goes emo*

Seriously though, give anybody who tries it a rough kick in the ass.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Well, see, if you wanted access, you would just have to put in the effort to get into category #4.

Or offer to make me custom clothing, I guess!

Anyone demonstrating that level of cluelessness will get corrected with my PLATFORM PENNANGALANS.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

See, now you're just giving me ideas.

*ogles the platforms*

I'm actually amused because personal space violations is a big thing on the T right now. There are ads everywhere like "expose yourself and I'll expose you" and "I'm not the one who should be ashamed", because of flashing and molestations.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Why, Medra, I didn't know you cared. ;-)

(See? I'm not anti-flirting. I'm all for it. This whole "wear a button that allows people to skip the flirting and go straight to asking to grab your ta-tas" is what dismays me.)

So, tell me more about the clothing you were thinking of! (What? Isn't that what you meant? ;-) )

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

wait, they actually have buttons for that now?

*still thinking about shoes*

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Did you miss the whole LJ frenzy over theferrett's glowing paean to what he called the Open Source Boobs Project?

Go look and you'll understand why I made this post.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

i miss all the good things. *runs off to look* or maybe bad?

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Keep your sporks and Bleeprin at the ready, chica.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

....what the fuck? I am amazed at some of the shite people come up with. It sounds interesting, but.... yeeeah. Creepy still.

[donnad.livejournal.com]

A kick in the ass? I would give him a knee to the balls.

I'm a person with a very strong need for personal space. Nobody I am not familiar with touches me without permission and if they insist they will get quite an earful if not worse.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

Heh, I'm too nice for a knee to the balls, personally. Though I suppose a punch in the face might work as well.

I think a lot of people don't want their personal space violated. Hmmm, what if somebody taps your shoulder though?

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, what if somebody taps your shoulder though?

If I'm not expecting it, I jump. This is well documented.

Then I usually glare.

And unless the shoulder tap is followed by a greeting from someone I already know and like, or a useful warning (like "did you know your hair was on fire?") from a stranger, the glare will probably be followed by a warning to keep hands to themselves.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

...I just can't picture you glaring. :p

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Oh, I've got a GLARE OF DOOM.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

eep, remind me never to be on the receiving end of such a glare.

[donnad.livejournal.com]

Tapping one on the shoulder with a legitimate greeting or warning is very different from tapping one on the shoulder and asking if they can touch my breasts. If someone asks to touch me innapropriately even without touching me at all, they will get a lecture on personal space.
If I know them casually, I would probably give them a horrified "No" and the lecture. If I know/have known them intimately, then I might make a flirty comment back. Much depends on who the person is.

If someone touches me inappropriately without asking, or without consent, male or female, then they may just get a kick in the genitalia.

I have a very strong personal space aura and I'm not a cute young thing that would attract the jerks that would do that anyway. So I can't even imagine a situation where someone would approach me and ask to touch me.

Unfortunately that aura sometimes works in the negative for me. I like getting hugs from people I know, often people don't approach me for hugs beacuse I appear unapproachable. So unless I initiate them they don't usually happen.

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

All in all, it sounds like you're safe. Is this a problem which has ever happened to you?

[donnad.livejournal.com]

When I was younger, yes. but not anymore. Not a cute young thing anymore.
:(

[medraxellion.livejournal.com]

Careful, I heard they go after all the cute, non-young things these days too. Nobody is safe.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Quite stylish, though, especially in pirate gear. (That coat was MADE OF AWESOME.)

[donnad.livejournal.com]

Thank you.