My body is NOT Open Source.

[rikibeth]

Just in case you weren't clear, here is a list of who, exactly, is allowed to touch my breasts:

1. My infant child, who I am feeding. Please note, I have one daughter, and she is TWELVE, so this category is null. Infants not my own will be handed back to Mom when they start groping, 'cause I got nothin' for 'em.

2. A medical professional screening me for cancer or other abnormalities, at an appointment I have made. PVC nurse outfits, while cute, do not give you access.

3. Someone measuring me for clothing. Bras, corsets, bodices, custom dresses, whatever. If it's important to get the fit right, fine.


4. Someone I'm currently involved with romantically/sexually, IF we are already engaged in kissing/cuddling/other behavior commonly called "making out." If we're just going about our everyday business, DON'T RANDOMLY GRAB. I kinda hate it.

If you're not covered by any category above?

DON'T EVEN ASK.

Got it?

Also, if you even THINK about asking the twelve-year-old daughter, be prepared for me to CALL THE COPS.

I absolutely refuse to wear any sort of button or signifier to remind people of this status.

MY DEFAULT IS NO.

Comments

[wasabi-poptart.livejournal.com]

I agree with you whole-heartedly. I'm not familiar with the situation that prompted this post, but the whole hyper-sexualized flirty/entitlement vibe given off at cons, ren faires, etc. makes me want to vomit.

[kitwench.livejournal.com]

Ok, I don't have a clue what would give someone any idea they could behave like this, but I must say, on behalf of all ferrets everywhere, THAT one is a disgrace to the name !
*grrrrr*
No one should have to say 'hands OFF!'

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Flirty is fine. I like flirting. It's the entitlement part that skeeves me out. Flirting with me means presenting me with an OFFER of your attention, and I get to decide if I want to accept or reject it. It doesn't put me under any obligation to do anything, and anyone who thinks otherwise is going to find out about Icy Glares, Cutting Comebacks, and, if they don't stay out of my personal space, the old-fashioned Slap to the Face, or me stepping on their foot, or whatever seems suitable.

[kitwench.livejournal.com]

Exactly - flirting is an invitation, one should be free to turn that invite down.
~lemme touch yer tits~ is NOT an invitation, regardless of how flowery one phrases it.
It's objectification.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

YEAH.

You know, if I'm walking around in something cleavagey, and a random guy does the Gene Wilder jaw-drop and says "What knockers!" even THAT'S not as offensive as a direct ask-to-touch. I'd still have the option of ignoring, smiling and keeping going, saying "Thanks" in the Teri Garr accent, or stopping to chat.

Making a direct request with no prior acquaintance is just RUDE.