My body is NOT Open Source.

[rikibeth]

Just in case you weren't clear, here is a list of who, exactly, is allowed to touch my breasts:

1. My infant child, who I am feeding. Please note, I have one daughter, and she is TWELVE, so this category is null. Infants not my own will be handed back to Mom when they start groping, 'cause I got nothin' for 'em.

2. A medical professional screening me for cancer or other abnormalities, at an appointment I have made. PVC nurse outfits, while cute, do not give you access.

3. Someone measuring me for clothing. Bras, corsets, bodices, custom dresses, whatever. If it's important to get the fit right, fine.


4. Someone I'm currently involved with romantically/sexually, IF we are already engaged in kissing/cuddling/other behavior commonly called "making out." If we're just going about our everyday business, DON'T RANDOMLY GRAB. I kinda hate it.

If you're not covered by any category above?

DON'T EVEN ASK.

Got it?

Also, if you even THINK about asking the twelve-year-old daughter, be prepared for me to CALL THE COPS.

I absolutely refuse to wear any sort of button or signifier to remind people of this status.

MY DEFAULT IS NO.

Comments

Re: Imbeciles and other considerations...

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

I seem to recall at *least* one Arisia where the con was not the only large gathering in the hotel, with said reception coinciding with the con ball.

Uh-huh. That wedding reception. Where many of the guests had the middle name "The" and were most likely packing heat?

Re: Imbeciles and other considerations...

[panzerschrek.livejournal.com]

That would be the one... the one where I, by dint of chosen garb (a tuxedo)and assumed reasonable nature, was drafted to stand at the entry to the reception area and wave off the weirdness.

Put this scenario into Arisia -- a con in a large metropolitan hotel -- some leggy blonde in a little red dress gets mistaken for a "Six" as she walks through the lobby and one of these idiots decides they just gotta grope them some of that and the other shoe drops. At that point, it doesn't matter if she's Mickey the Squirrel's mistress, the girl friend of a Patriots middle linebacker or simply a woman who is unwilling to "get with the program" b/c the Ferret (or one of his fellow shmucks) thinks that breasts should be public property.

Re: Imbeciles and other considerations...

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

To be bending-over-BACKWARD fair, the theory is that they'd only ASK to grope women who were wearing "yes, you may" buttons. The "yes, you may" meaning "you may ask."

But unless someone was wearing a fucking red DON'T ASK ME button, they, at the very least, were potentially subject to a skeevy approach of "Have you heard of our Open Source Boobies Project? Would you like a button?" To which the leggy blonde would be well justified in answering, "Get away from me, you creeps, before I call the cops." And if someone with a shorter temper than a cop happened to be nearby?

Oy.

Re: Imbeciles and other considerations...

[panzerschrek.livejournal.com]

Maybe, but all that really accomplishes is put about another 1/4" of fuse in front of the explosion that is Mickey the Squirrel.

On the other hand, just to flip the script, what happens if said leggy blonde *IS* a cop?

This OSBP conceptually rests on such a collection of assumptions and stupidities that it makes my head hurt... All it takes is one idiot who grabs faster than someone else listens, one hard of hearing sleeze-boy, one deaf female, one under-aged female (regardless of her willingness) or whatever nightmare scenario you'd care to conjure up and it *ALL* goes to skittles. One bad incident can badly damage, if not kill, a convention. On bad incident can get one arrested, booked, charged and convicted.

I've known trustafarians with less self-entitlement... and if the Ferret is "a feminist," I'm Gloria Steinem.

Re: Imbeciles and other considerations...

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

If anyone asks Miss Twelve Going On Seventeen in my presence if she wants a button, I WILL call the cops, even at the cost of shutting down Arisia entirely.