My body is NOT Open Source.

[rikibeth]

Just in case you weren't clear, here is a list of who, exactly, is allowed to touch my breasts:

1. My infant child, who I am feeding. Please note, I have one daughter, and she is TWELVE, so this category is null. Infants not my own will be handed back to Mom when they start groping, 'cause I got nothin' for 'em.

2. A medical professional screening me for cancer or other abnormalities, at an appointment I have made. PVC nurse outfits, while cute, do not give you access.

3. Someone measuring me for clothing. Bras, corsets, bodices, custom dresses, whatever. If it's important to get the fit right, fine.


4. Someone I'm currently involved with romantically/sexually, IF we are already engaged in kissing/cuddling/other behavior commonly called "making out." If we're just going about our everyday business, DON'T RANDOMLY GRAB. I kinda hate it.

If you're not covered by any category above?

DON'T EVEN ASK.

Got it?

Also, if you even THINK about asking the twelve-year-old daughter, be prepared for me to CALL THE COPS.

I absolutely refuse to wear any sort of button or signifier to remind people of this status.

MY DEFAULT IS NO.

Comments

[paper-crystals.livejournal.com]

Having read the original post it all seems a little Gorean. The whole idea of you may touch a women's breast unless she says you can't (which is sort of what looks like this comes down to) is assuming and arrogant. If someone is interested in physical contact they should get to know the person and figure out whether this sort of question is appropriate to ask in the first place.

[rikibeth.livejournal.com]

Actually the buttons were supposed to mean that it was okay to ASK the wearer to touch her breasts, and that the mere question would not offend her. Which, fine, if people really want to do that, even if I think ew, but there SHOULD NOT have to be a button for "no, don't ask," and also, it seems to me that allowing the question puts a certain amount of pressure on you to say "yes," because, after all, you'll allow it for some people just on asking, why not me?

Blech.