I think this is part of being a good mom, and it's what I do. My mother used to cry (literally) and then go into this rant about how ungrateful I was and what a mean child I was and How Can You Be This Way?!?
"I hate you!" "Ha! No you don't. And you really don't if you still want to get your allowance." "I don't hate you but you just don't understand." "I know I don't. When I was your age I was doing stupid shit instead of dealing with everything. I'm proud of you that you're dealing with it, even when you hate me." "I don't hate you." "Then try not to say it just to hurt me." Then she has to hug me.
This was... last weekend. She leaves and Jeff says, "I would have been smacked across the face for that."
I said, "I was, and then I smacked my mother back and called her a bitch. Not effective parenting. Violence begets violence. This is much better."
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I am a bad mom. I just looked at eternaleponine and laughed.
Date: 2007-03-17 04:17 pm (UTC)"I hate you!"
"Ha! No you don't. And you really don't if you still want to get your allowance."
"I don't hate you but you just don't understand."
"I know I don't. When I was your age I was doing stupid shit instead of dealing with everything. I'm proud of you that you're dealing with it, even when you hate me."
"I don't hate you."
"Then try not to say it just to hurt me."
Then she has to hug me.
This was... last weekend. She leaves and Jeff says, "I would have been smacked across the face for that."
I said, "I was, and then I smacked my mother back and called her a bitch. Not effective parenting. Violence begets violence. This is much better."